03.22.15 | Blog, Parenting

Power of words


“I am so proud of you…” Every parent has uttered these words to their child. Although it is natural for us to always be proud of our png_base6477c148afc24c31c3children, it is also important to analyze the ways in which we praise our children…

When we use phrases like “I am so proud of you” to praise a toddler instead of “well done, you worked hard at that”, it puts the emphasis on the results instead of the process. We should want to equip our children with an attitude that will make them want to succeed but also realize that success rarely comes without hpng_base6499dc779c2f11adf9ard work and dedication. When children are used to being praised directly they are not equipped to face a time when things don’t go as planned. As they grow older, toddlers are faced with tasks that require more advanced learning skills and are in turn more complex and difficult to handle. Children who are conditioned to understand the correlation between hard work and success will fare better than those who are groomed with constant result-focused praise. Essentially, it is important to praise the process, not only the outcome.

This will help children learn that working hard at something is also important, regardless of the results, png_base6455e4f7a238c43bbfand that they shouldn’t get disappointed when they have to work at it more or when things don’t work out their way. When children receive praise about the way they tackle something or are praised about their persistence or hard work, they feel more confident when they have to achieve a new task. They know they have the ability to work at it and succeed. They become better risk takers. When a child is used to “being so smart at …” they often choose to avoid the challenge of a new task and keep with what they know they can achieve. Researchers have seen gifted children choose their comfort zone rather than the new challenge.

Giving your child the gift of self confidence starts at a young age but you can always change your way of praising them to reinfopng_base64ef4d7c57a8d1a6bcrce it. Praising the process provides an open mindset that will make them ready to accept new challenges whether it is in their school work, meeting new friends or being part of a new team !




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Written by: Martine Brouillet

About Martine: Driven to make an impact in second-language learner children in their quest to become bilingual, Martine Brouillet founded Camp Tournesol in 2001 in Ontario, Canada. The company’s flagship French camps have since become leaders in this market, welcoming tens of thousands of children and spawning sister products servicing these families such as the Brouillet French Academy. Her passion and concern for the environment inspired her to create a new brand of eco-friendly camps, workshops, and summits: Love My Plant. To learn more about Camp Tournesol, visit www.campt.ca

Contact Martine Brouillet at martine@campt.ca | 905-891-1889

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